Sunday, August 19, 2012

Last night =P

I was doing absolutely nothing, while mike and val went to help Carla move. Carla is a crackhead that used to run with the Hoppy's, back when Val ran the Homeplate Bar. They've stayed in touch, and yes, she's the one that supplies rock when mike gets the need. Or a 20$ bill. ANYWAY~ they finished helping her move to an apartment in Auburn. Why was she moving? Well, she kinda burned her house down. Yeah, with a pipe. She actually lit fireworks inside the house with it. I've never done it, so i cant say why, but...Really?? After they helped her move, they came back here, mike showered and then took Val home. Usually on Saturday Mike goes to the bar but our electricity is going to be turned off any day now, and he has a child support hearing in the 22nd. So i assumed (don't go there) that he wouldn't be going to the bar. He called me from Val's house- the Mariners AND Seahawks are playing~ do i want to come out? Oh, why not? So i went. I turned left out of our driveway and was stuck in traffic. What the hell? Car accident? Traffic up the hill... Maybe something going in at the casino? Nope- 4 or 5 miles of traffic all the way to the White River Amphitheater, because KISS and Motley Crew were playing. Normally it takes me 25 minutes to get to Val's, but over an hour later i was still in traffic. Must have been an omen...  I got to Val's and Tim and Kelly were there. I've met them a few times, but each time Tim thinks its the first time. Yesterday he had gone swimming in the river while inebriated, and cracked a rib. So the alcohol and jokes were running wild. Mike was drunk before i got there, plus had 7 more beers in the 3 hours i was there, and when the seahawks won he started talking about going to sing. Val reminded him that none of us has money- the last 20 went to the ice house they were drinking. That didn't stop mike. every time anything came on that resembled a lyric, he was singing. I knew what he was doing- warming up~ But Val and the guys just told him to shut up so they could watch mariners. Tell Mike to shut up enough, and he'll leave. That's what we did. He's drunk, and wont ride with me cause he wants to go to the bar and i don't want to. So he takes off. I follow, and it turns out to be a pretty nice bar. He ordered his beer, they offered me free Pepsi for being the designated driver, but i chose water. About 15 mins later, in walks Val, Tim, Kelly and Anne! Now Anne has Huntington's Disease. to be blunt, she walks and talks like she's already drunk, which is sad. She's such a nice lady, i will miss her. They ordered drinks, and mike started a pool game. Just as he got them all racked up, the karaoke began. He was the only singer, so he did 2 in a row before the KJ turned off the music. She said she wanted more singers, so mike put in songs for all of us. Val, me, Tim, Kelly AND Anne. The music started again, and he sand- then the KJ called Val's name and he was MAD~ he didn't want to sing! I played this little dude in pool and won, and val was playing me. When he said he didn't want to sing, the KJ called MY name! I shook my head no, and mike took my turn. Then his turn. Then the KJ called Anne- really??  Poor gal cant stand without falling, and Mike put her name up for karaoke? By then there were more people, and the KJ is calling for Anne. She wants to please people so she stands up and immediately falls onto Tim, who screamed. (Cracked rib, remember?) So the majority of the bar was looking in her direction, she got flustered and started towards the door.  Val and i went to help her, and we got her outside okay. She smoked a cigarette and calmed down.  I went back in, and Mike was sitting at the furthest table from the group, and he had 'The Look'. The one that tells me to either make everything better or sleep somewhere else. I rubbed his back, and asked him what was wrong? He pushed my hand away, and said that i chose his brother over him! (Gag!!!) I cannot stand Val, and Mike knows this. But I'm guessing he wasn't paying attention when Anne was having her trouble. He stood up to leave, and i followed. We passed Val and Anne coming in, Val asked where we were going. I said Home, i hope! and we left. He got in his truck, and screeched away, i started freaking out. You don't want to drink and drive in Enumclaw. Nowhere, really, but Enumclaw is pretty harsh. I followed him down Auburn-Enumclaw hwy, until the Amphitheater.As luck would have it, it was just after 11:30 and we hit traffic. Police were diverting off the hiwy to control traffic, and i was REALLY hoping that one of these cops would smell the beer on his breath and stop him. At least if i was behind him, they would let me take him home...right? We made it thru the maze they set up, and i made sure that i stayed 3 car lengths behind Mike's truck. I could see him, he couldn't see me. And sure enough, at the Casino where he should have turned left to go home, he went straight to go to the Monkey. I came home and took my medication. At 2AM he woke me up to let me know that within 2 months i wont know him and he'll be in jail for taking care of my bi*ch mom, my wh*re grandmother  and his f*cking b*itch c*nt w*ore of an ex. F*ck Marilyn (our landlord) F*ck the world,f*ck me, his kids, my family, everyone. When i didn't respond (What was it i should have said??) he tore the blanket off and turned the air conditioner on. I didn't respond because this is how he talks when he's drunk on rum. Why he brought my family into this time i have no idea, I've given up talking about my mom. He punched the door closed then flopped into bed. I waited about 5 mins, and when he started snoring, i got up to assess the damage. Some pop cans thrown around, and the bar from the freezer door was on the stove, but otherwise nothing serious. I turned off the lights, locked the door, closed the window and curtains, and turned off the air condition, then tried to sleep. And naturally, when he woke up this morning? Didn't remember any of it.

Saturday, December 31, 2011

Happy New Year!!!

From me and mine, to you and yours, 
Open your windows, open your doors! 
Grab a neighbor, give her a twirl! 

Right at midnight, kiss your girl! 
Make lots of noise- bring lots of cheer... 

But most important of all?



Have a HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

2 many 2 count

I dont write as often as i should, but it's only because i'mcaught in a circle. I guess people call it the domestoc violence circle, and it fits. He attacks, i cry, i threaten to leave, even pack up and try! He threatens my family, i stay, he gets better. Then he gets worse, and since i didnt leave last time, i probably wont leave this time, so he can push it further. The wall has marks where things have been thrown, stabbed, sliced... i finally got off the lease, just so Marilyn wont sue ME for damages too.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

DV Help

The Actual Email to State Legislature, AND The Reply!

Melissa,

I have sent a copy of your email to Janet Adams and Linda Rolfe at the Division of Developmental Disabilities through the Department of Social and Health Services to follow up with you on Monday, November 14, 2011.

When you experience abuse you can call the following resources:

Emergency 911
Adult Protective Services 1-866-363-4276
Domestic Abuse Women's Network 425-656-7867

Is it safe for you for me to call you?

Sincerely,


Cheryl Marshall
LA to Pam Roach
State Senator
360-786-7660



-----Original Message-----
From: im.an.epileptic.fish@gmail.com  
Sent: Friday, November 11, 2011 2:54 PM
To: Roach, Sen. Pam
Cc: Dahlquist, Rep. Cathy; Hurst, Rep. Christopher
Subject: Constituent: Domestice Violence For Disabled Adults

HOUSE INTERNET E-MAIL DELIVERY SERVICE
SENATE INTERNET E-MAIL DELIVERY SERVICE

TO:  Senator Pam Roach

CC:  Representative Cathy Dahlquist
     Representative Christopher Hurst

FROM: Ms. Melissa Kuchman(Constituent)

EMAIL:  iXXXXX@gmail.com
PHONE:  (253) XXX - XXXX
SUBJECT:  Domestic Violence For Disabled Adults
MESSAGE:

Hello- my name is Melissa Kuchman, and I am currently living in a Domestic Violence situation. I am also mentally disabled, socialphobia, agoraphobia, and others. Last year i volentarily committed myself to a mental hospital for 4 days for help. My abuser assured me all would be better. A year later, we're worse.

I'm writing to ask if i fall under any category that would label me as a "Protected Adult" because of my disabilities. I looked under other statutes but i cant understand them. I'm sorry to bother you three, but i dont know where to go for these answers. If i qualify as a "disabled Person" i can get help from APS (Adult Protective Services) in removing this man from my house. Please help me, in any way that you can. Information, people i can call, advice, ANYTHING.

Thank you for any help you can give me.
Melissa Kuchman

NOTE:  We are 99% sure that this constituent is in your district
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Missy Mutt And the police SHOWED UP Monday, November 14.
November 16, 2011 at 11:46pm
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David K. Cyrius You need to call. Im at work, but you better fuckin call me!
November 17, 2011 at 7:30am
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Missy Mutt I'll be at the Fife house- when you get off work, call me. 
November 17, 2011 at 11:08am
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Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Good day/bad night

We woke up this morning, and hit the ground running. Mike was in a panic about making money,today- HAD to be TODAY. I couldn't figure out why, his unemployment check comes tomorrow. But cest la vie, if he's happy life works better for this household. So i went with him to federal way, to his friends to get metal, , we went up to the woods my mom found this weekend and lifted a CAR into his truck. We had 600 LBS of metal! We had this front end of a white car, 2 BBQ's, pots, pans, mass amounts of... well, scrap crap. there is a place in Algona (next to my city) that takes all sorts of metal, as long as it's over 300LBS. We pulled up, they cant take the car part- too much plastic. So we took it to Kent (on the other side of my city) and weighed in, got in line, waited...waited...waited... and this fork-lift truck driver said he wont take the car without a title. We don't have a title- we just got this hunk of crap from the woods. So time to go back to Algona, which is now rush hour traffic time, and the easiest way to get there is closed due to construction. If you take a left, you can drive thru Auburn, easy-peasy. Nope, up the hill (still loaded with 600LBS of crap) and he's bitching cause gas, traffic, no title on the car part, the other drivers, etc. ANYTHING he can find to bitch about- this day was no longer fun. I just wanted to drop this stuff off and get away from mike. I had an apt with my mom's hot tub that i was not about to miss. So... back to Algona, drop off everything but the car part, leaving us with 340LBS drop off, which equaled 42.50$  Now, if i was a different person, i would ask for my half, but I'm in it for the fun. It's fun to hammer things apart, and make noise, and messes, and get dirty! It's just...fun. But i was insulted when he handed me the 50 cents and kissed me on the cheek. And then we headed home, with one stop. After all his bitching, all his grumbling, about money, he stopped at the liquor store. My rent check is going to bounce, because I'm no longer paying his half, he's scrapping to make such a teeny amount of money, and he stops for alcohol. So at this point, I'm pissed. I've heard nothing but how the world is against him and he never has enough money,and now this? As soon as we got home, i grabbed my shorts and was headed out the door to my mom's. he follwed- so much for a fasat getaway.  We got in the hot tub, and 20 mins later he was done. Unfortunately, the towels in the wash machine weren't, so i didn't want to leave. I was trying to stall, the washer was almost done, the dryer will only take about half hour...just be patient. i spent all day being his lackey, I'm doing HIS laundry, be patient, it's a favor for you, etc. I didnt want to leave, giving grandma ammo to talk shit. He actually went out to sit in my car. Fuck it, i asked grandma to throw the towels in the dryer and i'll be back tomorrow. Idrove us home, and he headed for his bottle. And at 8pm, sure as rain, he got dressed and went to the bar. Did i mention rent check bouncing? Yeah. I'm so pissed.