Im not quite sure what happened...I know i needed to update dr labs, make an eye appointment, ear appointment, and go talk to my dr. I also knew it would take getting my car back, because my mom had her appointments and mike had his, so i would either need an uber or i need my car back. I tried to explain this to my mom, as shes been using my car. i let her use it for a YEAR AND A HALF. I have the text that says "You can cencel your insurance, im covered under any car i drive." Well, thats nice for you, but...your insurance wont cover my car, by your own words, unless you are on the title. No problem, right? But i still need a ride- 4 rides actually, and i dont have a driver. My mom had her appointments that she'll cancel, but my insurance is crawling in my window because its new an they want a baseline for future tests. So, i let my mom know, and the heavens opened up. She keeps acting like im asking for money, or hiding a dead body. She did do a favor for me, kind of. I kept asking Mike to take me to get my car, because he has a follow up on his surgery. I had to make an appointment to pee in a cup, give blood, visit my dr and stop by the eye dr to drop off new insurance.
I told my mom about needing my car, and OMG you'd think id ask her to chop off an arm. I swear, all i need was the car. i rescheduled my vision, hearing and peeing in a cup, having no transportation. I should be mad, but get this... She went off on me! Like- all of a sudden i invented hell and shawn was oh so wonderful. He gave Mike a nice TV, he cleaned and vaccummed the car (and it looks GREAT!) and my mom brought my car down. I can only imagone that conversation... how horrible i am for not putting the car in her name.
She gets paid at the end of the month and i get paid at the beginning. She pays her bills, and i pay mine. I dont borrow money, because im working with a credit card company and watch every penny. I called DoL in Olympia, to find out how much it will cost to switch grandma off the car and put my mom on. Ive called 3 different times, and been on hold so long i felt my blood pressure rise. Finally i just sent an email. I let my mom know, and we waited. This would have been a good time to talk about who's paying what- 50/50? But anytime anybody brings up the car, things get tense. Does she think im holding the keys over her head like a treat? I never wanted that!!
Its not like i purposfully made appointments to piss her off. New health insurance needs them. Luckily i dont need a gyno again, that was not a fun time.
So, my parents 43rd anniversary was the 25th and they celebrated by getting an airbnb and relaxing in the mountains. They did this last year and she loved and hated it. My dad plays on his phone, and she for a walk, but they didnt get to do things together. You know, like married couples do? I was waiting to see if she had a good time, fingers crossed.
Shawn has a 2025 tv hes going to give to mike. So...hows this: Mike and i go up to their house, get that tv, get the car, my mom even has bags of aluminum cans for mike. If i could coodinate all these things, i would feel... better, my to-do list and all it entails smushed into 1 thing. I can do that, right?
Enter mom. i had told her about all the appointments, wanting to make sure nothing overlapped, and she knew all was clear. Here's where it gets ugly. =(
She and i have been going round and round about the tabs. I have 1 income, and a carefully balanced budget. She has 1 income but uses that for 3 adults and 2 dogs to feed and take care of. Id rather she not take care of me- i know its done in love but my dad gives her such grief, and with Shawn there, i want to ease her load, not add to it.
So round and round about the tabs, and she actually sent me a picture showing that she bought them. Because the car is in grandmas name as well, anything to do with the car goes to my moms address. No problem, really. I woke up wednesday and it had snowed! We had a dry winter but the little bit was so pretty.
Mike was outside crunching around in it and told me my car was here. huh? I got dressed, took my meds, did my morning routine, etc. When i saw i had a text from my mom, telling me she dropped my car off and a picture of the new tabs, still in envelope.
I had to pull my car back into our spot, she had parked in Alan's spot. So i went down to move my car-- it was so so clean! She vacummed and wiped it down, it still even had a nice girly smell, like new car smell. I told Mike he should grab the tv because if someone sees it, they may break a window or worse and my insurance doesn't kick in until April 1st. I sent my mom a big thank you, i knew she wouldnt hurt the car but it really looked nice! I texted her thank you for the tabs, and for such a clean car and she made it quite clear that Shawn cleaned and vacummed and she didnt know why. She even told him to pawn the tv.
A few hours go by, and i had somehow forgotten that everything is fodder when it comes to my mom. Dont dare tell her something that you dont want thrown back in your face. Me? Ive been wanting to go back to church, but having no car has been a hassle. i can zoom in, but its not the same. My mom offered to take me but the rain makes the porch slippery and i cant walk on a good day! I also have been fighting an eternal struggle with my pastor, and passed my worries onto my mom.
Me and my stupid mistakes!
My pastor is awesome, truly. He helped me work thru my guilt about Islam, he baptised me- he really has helped me. When it comes to politics however, hes well read, and knows what hes talking about, while i pay attention to what i like. Pastor said something political that i (and many people) didnt agree with, and i was talking about this comment to my mom. So guess what got thrown back in my face out of the blue? Yeah. Apparently im not Christian, who knew? <Insert Charlie Kirk comment here?>
Apparently she did. And because i had confided in her, i guess she needed to throw it back in my face, letting me know its not my pastors fault im a horrible Christian. Yep, i have a lovely text from my mother telling me this.
I have so many saved texts, im going to take screenshots and reset my phone.
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